On most days we believe that we are affected by our environment, and by the whims, desires and emotional states of those around us. But what if there were another world beyond what you have been led to believe, an alternative Universe, where you lived and danced in a rich tapestry of possibilities and choices ripe for the picking?
What if this reality allowed you to be totally responsible and decisive in creating the life you wanted by simply harnessing the energetic power of habit and imagination? And then, if your reality was not unfolding the way you wanted it to, you could simply take action, design a new path, and explore different avenues of choice.
Stretch your imagination a little further and picture yourself waking up every morning and creating your day the way you wanted it to unfold using a few simple techniques. Imagine your boss saying yes to your pay raise request—with a smile—flowing through stress-free morning traffic, or your partner hanging onto every word you say—even when you’re complaining.
Well maybe not the last one, but hey, anything’s possible right? The fact is if you are curious and open to new possibilities, you can use your imagination, and you have the ability to follow four simple techniques; with practice you can create your reality the way you want it. But before we delve into the weird and wonderful realm of creating your reality and give you an insight into the four pillars of designing your day, it is useful to understand how the tool—your mind—works. Here’s a quick blueprint!
Your unconscious mind—through the five senses—takes in about two million bits of information per second. However the ever-present conscious mind can only process about 134 bits of information per second—that’s a bit of a difference. It is for this reason that you distort, delete and generalise your experiences in order to make sense of them, because otherwise you’d probably go bonkers!
A good analogy is that the conscious mind is like a narrow torch beam in a dimly lit room, while your unconscious mind is the rest of the room. In fact research in quantum physics is now catching up with what ancient wisdom has taught us for thousands of years: that energetically you are connected to the entire Universe, and everyone else. Your conscious observations of your reality, therefore, gives you the power to consciously transform your reality, or in other words to design your days.
When you understand that you are the creator of your life, it is easy to see that your life is defined by opportunities, even the ones you miss; and it is not what happens to you that matters, it is how you react to what happens to you that defines your reality. But how do you find the right opportunities to excite you if you have no idea what you want to do, or be, in the first place?
Find Your Excitement
The first technique to open up your world-weary eyes to the theatre of reality is to learn to discover your excitement. Perhaps you’ve been toying with the idea of becoming a flamboyant burlesque dancer, a crocodile wrangler, or a Wall Street high roller, but you just can’t decide which one is your real passion, or which one might make you happy. What is happiness—or excitement—to you?
Incidentally, everyone talks about finding their bliss, passion, purpose, enlightenment, or happiness, but these states, in my opinion, point to the same one state—excitement. In life we are either excited or bored! So to find your excitement it is important to narrow down your focus by first finding out what that focus is—then you’ll discover your perfect lifestyle.
To find your excitement it is important to learn what your values are and to visualize your life—with your five senses—as you would like it to be. To find out your values and thus your excitement, ask yourself a series of intelligent, mind-expanding questions such as, “What would I do if I knew the world was going to end in a week from today?”
Answer these questions honestly and they will unravel your mind like a ball of wool. Once you discover your excitement, write down your dreams, create achievable bite-sized steps to reach them, and keep them close to you every day; read them and always, always, be grateful for what you have right now.
Simplify Your Life
Once you have found what excites you, monk-ify your life and cultivate Zen simplicity! Narrow down your focus to what excites you only and cut the fat. Simplify your life by cutting back and de-cluttering all the unnecessary aspects of your life that aren’t related to your goals so you can begin designing our day.
Go on a low information and zero negativity diet, bunch actions in batches, use Parkinson’s law and the Pareto’s principle—or the 80/20 rule— do tasks in small chunks, create an easy system and learn to be aware and conscious of your thoughts and actions.
Next collect everything in one space, organize it neatly and effectively, choose only what is essential to your goals and eliminate the rest. Simplifying your life is about narrowing your focus to what is important—your dreams. It is the final sophistication and the nature of great spirits to implement simplicity in your life, and in simplicity life becomes a joy and an adventure.
Design Your Day
Once you have found your excitement and simplified your life it is time to create your dreams into reality—are you ready? Let’s set sail into an adventure because creating your reality is exactly that, and your life will never be the same again.
The entire physical world including you is made up of nothing but sub-atomic particles, or energy, vibrating at different frequencies. When scientists first measured these sub-atomic particles, the sub-atomic particles became whatever they were trying to measure and in these observations the scientists themselves shaped their current reality.
This was a revelation many ancient philosophies have been telling us for thousands of years that your mind shapes your reality, therefore, you can influence the result of your reality by changing the way you see it—perception is reality!
Creating your reality, however, is more than just wishing positively about what you want to attract in your life, like some recent books and films would like you to believe. Positive thinking is self-manipulation that often results in ignoring your true feelings and getting stuck in problem solving instead of creation—it is not true creative change.
True, lasting and effortless transformation occurs when you change the structure of your behaviour by making choices to behave in a way that is consistent with your vision whilst honouring your current reality—the now. Once you decide to become the creative force in your life, people and situations will align themselves to you and you will effortlessly reach your goals.
Live in the Moment
However, when creating your reality you can only do so in this moment, right here, because all life unfolds in the present. The mind, however, likes to trick us into believing that the past and the future are current states, and so we often let the present slip into the reverie of the past, or the worry of the future.
We swing from thought to thought like monkeys vaulting from tree to tree and as a consequence our moments drown in a cacophony of external influences and a mixed bag of colourful self-conscious past or future thoughts and feelings that empties today of its strength.
Being present can be taxing at times, especially when your workmate is irritatingly clicking his pen and reminding you of tomorrow’s presentation—for the fifth time—reminiscent of your little sister’s annoying habits when you were kids. It’s so easy to get lost in thought and externalisations! Yet one of life’s sharpest paradoxes is that our brightest future centres on our capacity to pay attention to the present moment.
Living in the moment is not about doing what you want to do now without consequences. Quite the opposite: you realise that the only moment that has any importance in the grand scheme of things is this time right now.
Being in the moment means that instead of getting stuck in your head and worrying, you can let yourself go, be present, and savour your reality. You can experience yourself as part of a greater universe and enjoy what’s happening right now.
Therefore, once you know what excites you, and as you simplify your life, you are able to create your reality in the moment with ease and your focus will naturally tighten, as your awareness merges with your actions—and you will “flow”.
Being consciously aware will widen the gulf between emotional impulse and action, which in turn will increase your self-confidence and dissolve your self-consciousness. This will have the positive effect of enhancing your ability to unravel and respond to what’s occurring in your mind and allow you to adjust your behaviour.
In this way the creative process in the moment, although difficult at certain stages, will allow you to see the world with fresh eyes and recognize that the world is constantly shifting. This will allow you to take advantage of all opportunities that fall across your path, and your actions will start to feel effortless and rewarding.
The key, then, to living consciously, in the moment, is to breathe and to be aware of being alive. There is no goal, nothing happens next. This is it right now. You’re already here.
Creating the life you want is easier than you think, but like anything worthwhile in life it takes habit and imagination to reach your goals.?
Each one of these ideas—four pillars—builds upon the other, and although these tools will create change in your life when practised individually, when implemented together they will allow you to create a profound transformation in your life beyond your wildest dreams, and like a great tide your life will be set ablaze and burn so brightly that the whole world will see it.
Over the coming months I will travel into each one of these ideas in more depth and detail providing you with tools and practical exercises so you can learn to create your life from the inside out right now.??“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” — Carl Gustav Jung